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Posted Mon, Sep 14, 2009

I've always had unwritten rules about who you should and shouldn't date.
Friends' exes are out, for example.

So is asking someone out when you know a girlfriend is already interested in him.

Hitting on a girlfriend's guy when they are already dating is definitely out.

In fact, in my books, hitting on any guy who's already attached or married even if you're not friends with his partner is a no-no. It's just bad karma.

But it seems karma is no match for biology.

Ninety percent of the single women in an Oklahoma State University study on 'mate poaching' were more interested in dating a man who was already in a relationship than a single man.

Past psychological studies have shown that some women may try to lure a man away from his current partner, a phenomenon known as 'mate poaching.' One 2004 study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology suggested that as many as one in five long-term relationships began when one or both partners was already in a relationship with someone else.

But this new study, published in the current issue of the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology shows that most single women actually prefer men who are already in a committed relationship.

Men and women were matched with students based on a description of their ideal romantic partner. When researchers described the women's match as single, 59 percent of the single women in the study were interested in pursuing him. However, when they described the exact same man as being in a committed relationship, 90 percent of the women were interested. Neither the men nor the already attached women who participated showed this preference.

Dr. Melissa Burkley, an assistant professor of social psychology at Oklahoma State University and one of the researchers behind the study suggests that the reason behind this is that single women are more interested in pursuing unavailable men (now, there's some shocking news) possibly because they are more interested in a guy who's already shown he can commit by being in another relationship, indicating he'd be a reliable mating partner.

Of course, the study doesn't show that, if you pursue the committed man and he goes for it, he's also clearly capable of breaking that commitment and cheating.

Would you pursue someone you knew was already attached?

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Sexsomnia

'Sexsomnia' made in Canada
Posted Tue, Jul 07, 2009
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This week, Jan Luedecke the Toronto landscaper who was acquitted in 2005 for sexually assaulting a woman because he was sound asleep at the time of the assault, was scheduled to appear before a panel to determine if he should have any long-term restrictions on his freedom.
Instead the panel ordered Luedecke undergo a 'full and complete risk assessment' before making their decision.
'Sexsomnia,' like insulin, five-pin bowling and the term 'cougar,' is a Canadian discovery. I first heard about it at a sexuality conference in Guelph several years ago when Dr. Paul Fedoroff, a forensic psychiatrist in Ottawa presented research suggesting that stress, chronic sleeplessness, or alcohol or drug abuse may lead a person to engage in sexual behaviour while sound asleep.

The research, which Fedoroff completed with co-researchers Dr. Colin Shapiro and Dr. Nik Trajanovic of the University of Toronto first appeared in 1996 in a paper called 'Sexsomnia - A New Parasomnia?' that was published in the Canadian Journal of Psychiatry in June 2003.

It was good timing for Luedecke as it was the wee hours of house party in July 2003 when a woman woke up on the couch to find Luedecke having sex with her. He was found not criminally responsible for the assault because he was asleep at the time He testified that he had been overworked, overstressed, sleep-deprived, taken magic mushrooms and knocked back a whole bunch of booze, pretty much in line with Fedoroff et al's definition of 'sexsomnia.'

As bizarre as this all sounds, Luedecke's case is not the first.

In December of 2005, a British man was cleared of three counts of rape because he suffered 'sexsomnia' and wasn't conscious during the act. In August of 2007, a British mechanic was cleared of a rape charge after the jury found him not responsible for his actions when he had sex with a 15-year-old girl while asleep. And it's not just a guy thing. In 2004, an Australian woman was reportedly leaving her house at night and having sex with strangers while sleepwalking.

Any type of sleepwalking is rare, occurring in about 3% of children and young adolescents, and 0.5% of adults. According to research, 4% of adults who suffer from the condition carry out sexual behavior.

Luedecke's assessment, to be carried out at Centre for Addiction and Mental Health in Toronto, will be completed by Aug. 28. Based on this, the panel can then decide whether or not he should be committed to hospital, or to place certain conditions on his release such as refraining from drug or alcohol use.

What do you think? Do you thing 'sexsomnia' is a legitimate defense against sexual assault?

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Men on Flirting....

Men talk about flirting
Get the scoop on how guys feel about that certain spark
By Alicia Cox
Why are some people better at flirting than others? When it goes wrong, it can be awkward and sometimes offensive. But when there’s that spark of connection, flirting provides a lot of ego-boosting bang for your buck. There are common signs of flirting: raised eyebrows, nodding, smiling, eye contact, physical contact. It sounds simple, but sometimes it can get complicated. We talked to men of all ages to find out what they had to say about flirting. And we gathered a couple of cringe-worthy stories, too.

What makes you flirt with a woman?
Her eyes. If she looks at me in a certain way, I know she’s a flirt. Like she wants me to notice her. That’s not a bad thing, it’s a great thing.
– Joe, 29

Nothing makes me do it, it just happens naturally if I like her, as a friend or as romantic potential.
– Mo, 32

If I’m in a good mood and I get a good energy from a woman, then I’ll flirt with her. But I don’t think I’m a big flirt. I’ve had a few massive failures.
– Andy, 38

How do you flirt?
I touch her somewhere. I mean on the arm or hand or back! If I want to touch her, then I’m flirting with her.
– Marcus, 36

Try to make her laugh. If you can make a woman laugh, it’s a good starting place.
– Tony, 42

When she’s smiling a lot, but also looking away. That’s a good sign.
– Peter, 44

How can you tell when a woman is flirting with you?
You can just tell. It goes both ways, right? Women can tell when we’re flirting with them, so it’s the same for us. There’s a connection or a shared joke or you’re attracted to each other. It isn’t always about sex. Sometimes it’s about platonic chemistry.
– John, 52

When a woman looks you in the eye and smiles a lot – but that could also mean she’s just friendly. It can be confusing sometimes to know the difference. Just so women know, men think that too.
– Mo, 32

Do you think flirting crosses a line if you’re in a relationship?
Not if it’s not sexual. I flirt with everyone, not because I’m attracted to everyone, but it just comes naturally. I don’t even think it’s flirting, really. Just being friendly. Especially to beautiful women. But I do flirt with everyone, if I have a girlfriend or not.
– Peter, 44

No. If I think she’s flirting with me first (that doesn’t happen too often, I’ve been married for 30 years), and it seems innocent, then I’m sure I respond in kind. I’m married, not totally oblivious. My wife and I trust each other implicitly, however, and we know what we’re doing here.
– John, 52

What’s the worst flirting experience you’ve had? (The following stories are anonymous, rightly so)
I had a few too many pops at a wedding and told a hot bridesmaid who was rather shy that I was going to blow her mind. I just kept saying that over and over again. ‘I’m going to blow your mind!’ I was trying to impress her, or maybe I was trying to convince her that I would be a good guy to hang out with later. I liked her. Whatever I was doing, she was so embarrassed by it that she left the reception early. I did email her to apologize for being a drunk loser, but she didn’t write back.

In university, I had some classic flameouts. My buddies called me the Stingman instead of wingman because I chased women away. Luckily, I met an incredible woman who agreed to marry me! Once I tried to flirt with this girl I had a thing for in my [Geoffrey] Chaucer class by reading my passage with a perfect accent (we had to read aloud with an Olde English dialect every week). Imagine me reading my Chaucer proudly with my perfect accent and my really geeky clothes and, I admit it, I carried a briefcase. I stared at her the whole reading and I think she was totally creeped out by it. Needless to say, nothing happened between us.

How does your sex life compare?

1. Canadians prefer brunettes the most, then black hair, blondes and redheads.
2. The average sexual session, including foreplay, lasts between 10 to 30 minutes.
3. One in four women routinely fake an orgasm.
4. Fifty percent of women say their body image interferes with their sex life.
5. The majority of Canadians lost their virginity between the ages of 16-20, followed by 10-15.
6. One in four Canadian women admit that a previous lover other than their current one was the best they ever had.
7. Thirty-eight percent of women own a vibrator.
8. Fifty-nine percent of Canadians say they have sex weekly.
9. French women have more orgasms: 72 percent said they had an orgasm most or all of the time compared to 57 percent of English-speaking women.
10. Canadian men average 23 sex partners, 10 more than American men at 13 which is the global average.

Bad Boys versus Nice Boys

He's a reeeally nice guy, funny, considerate, a real sweetheart. I don't know what it is, but I'm just not turned on by him."

Sound familiar?

Why go for funny, sweet, considerate when we can go for indifferent, self-centred and manipulative? So much sexier.

Why do women love bad boys? Why is the sky blue? Some women say it's about the challenge and the excitement. Nice guys are too predictable. We want to love them, but the good girl in us wants to rebel. And since society doesn't like bad girls, we let bad boys bring out the rebel in us.

Most of us get over it.

But, given the number of guys I hear from who tell me they've spent one too many days in I-like-you-as-a-friend purgatory, some of us take longer than others. "Do I have to be a jerk to get women to sleep with me?" these guys ask me. I figure they deserve an answer. Especially being such nice guys and all.

But see, but this is the problem with a lot of nice guys. They're too nice. They're so worried about what we think, their own personalities disappear in the process.

I get a little uncomfortable with a guy who is willing to do anything for me, especially if it means constantly sacrificing his own needs.

We all like to be catered to, but there's got to be a line where we end and he starts. If we don't see that line, it's very hard to respect a guy and believe he likes himself enough for us to like him.

There are reasons some women like to date boys more than girls (and not all of them have to do with sex). Believe it or not, there are a few male qualities we women quite like. For one, we are quite fond (and possibly even a little jealous) of the strong sense of self so many boys are taught to develop. We just hate it when it gets out of hand and he becomes an egotistical, self-centered boob. Unfortunately, we sometimes get sucked in.

Being nice does not mean being a doormat. Being sensitive means being flexible, but it doesn't mean he has to be putty in our hands. It means being able to stand up for who he is without being a jerk about it. Why is that so hard?

Maybe because it's a lot easier to whine about how nice guys don't get laid.

Sex Industry Recession Resistant!

CHICAGO - As a bartender and trainer at a national restaurant chain, Rebecca Brown earned a couple thousand dollars in a really good week. Now, as a dancer at Chicago's Pink Monkey gentleman's club, she makes almost that much in one good night.

The tough job market is prompting a growing number of women across the country to dance in strip clubs, appear in adult movies or pose for magazines like Hustler.

Employers across the adult entertainment industry say they're seeing an influx of applications from women who, like Brown, are attracted by the promise of flexible schedules and fast cash. Many have college degrees and held white-collar jobs until the economy soured.

"You're seeing a lot more beautiful women who are eligible to do so many other things," said Gus Poulos, general manager of New York City's Sin City gentleman's club. He said he got 85 responses in just one day to a recent job posting on Craigslist.

The transition to the nightclub scene isn't always a smooth one - from learning to dance in 13-centimetre heels to dealing with the jeers of some customers.

Some performers said they were initially so nervous that only alcohol could calm their nerves.

"It is like giving a speech, but instead of imagining everyone naked, you're the one who's naked," Brown, 29, said.

Eva Stone, a 25-year-old dancer at the Pink Monkey, said dealing with occasional verbal abuse from patrons requires "a thick skin."

Makers of adult films cautioned that women shouldn't rush into the decision to make adult movies without considering the effect on their lives.

"Once you decide to be an adult actress, it impacts your relationship with everyone," said Steven Hirsch, co-chairman of adult film giant Vivid Entertainment Group. "Once you make an adult film, it never goes away."

The women at the Pink Monkey say dancing at a strip club might not have been their first career choice, but they entered the business with their eyes wide open. The job gives them more control and flexibility than sitting in a cubicle, and "it's easy, it's fun and all of us girls ... look out for each other," Brown said.

In this economy, "desperate measures are becoming far more acceptable," said Jonathan Alpert, a New York City-based psychotherapist who's had clients who worked in adult entertainment.

For some, dancing is temporary, a way to pay for college loans or other bills. Others say they've found their niche.

Dancers at the upscale Rick's Caberet clubs in New York City and Miami can make $100,000 to $300,000 a year - in cash - even with the economic downturn, club spokesman Allan Priaulx said.

Priaulx said 20 to 30 women a week are applying for jobs at the New York club, double the number of a year ago.

Still, analysts say, the industry isn't immune to the economic recession. Business is down an estimated 30 per cent across all segments, including adult films, gentleman's clubs, magazines and novelty shops, said Paul Fishbein, president of AVN Media Network, an adult entertainment company that has a widely distributed trade publication and an award show.

"In the past, people have said this industry is recession-proof," said Eric Wold, director of research for financial services firm Merriman Curhan Ford. "I definitely don't see that; maybe recession-resistant."

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Bedtime Story (written by a devoted client)

The day started like any other day but certainly ended with a twist. I prepared myself for work, not knowing what the day had in store. Although I smiled because I had an appointment to counsel a young man who claimed he was submissive – exactly the type of counseling I crave.



The day was a typical dank and wet winter day in the north US. I shivered in my winter jacket and hurried inside the clinic in which I have my office. Aside from my excitement for what I knew would be an entertaining session, the remainder of the day was one of those typical days filled with many boring meetings and administrative paperwork.



I have providing counseling for many years, I am British and educated in Canada. I am a sex therapist/counselor for the last twenty years. I specialize in unusual sexual behaviours such as fetishes (BDSM, Domination, submission, cuckolding, body worship, chastity), sexual identity (bi-sexuality, homosexuality, trans-gender, crossdressing, et cetera), excessive masturbation, erectile dysfunction in conjunction with various forms of impotence. American men seem to love the British accent. Although surprisingly I spend most of my time with impotence issues, I am a dominant bitch with a capital “B”!



I have been recognized as one of the best and brightest in my field and that is why I am in such demand for my counseling abilities. In additional, I own a small clinic associated with my counseling. I also believe in Female Superiority and all the employees, doctors, clinicians, and nurses are women. The clinic has been recognized as one of the best institutions of medical institutions for medical dysfunctional treatment and education worldwide.



Unbeknownst to my client, I knew about his submissive yearnings and his fetish for worshipping a woman’s boots. I particularly love having a male kneel and experience the humiliation of kneeling at My feet and worshipping My boots.



As a rule, women generally wear boots to work in the winter, particularly having to walk through the slush of a melting snow, et cetera. And this day was no exception. Having experienced a major snowfall several days earlier, the snow was starting to melt on this warm, dark day. Most women would wear the boots traveling to work and then when they reached their work station would change the boots to more common heels, et cetera.



It was time for his appointment. I decided to do a little test and took off my boots and placed them on my desk. They were gorgeous, black leather, stiletto heels. I went into the other room which had a one-way mirror to allow Me to observe his behaviour. My assistant brought him into my office and he sat with the boots in full sight.



Sneakily, he glanced around the office to see if he was being observed and he picked up My boots, and stuck one stiletto heel in his mouth. He then kissed the toe of the boot and the smile on his face was euphoric. Unbeknownst to him, I was standing in the door watching him caress and worship My boots. Suddenly, he turned and sensed My eyes drilling into his back. I said, “Is there something you want to tell me?” And, before he could answer, I said, “you didn’t ask permission to kiss my boots, did you – slave?”



The look on his face was priceless, mortified he stammered “what…what….do you mean Dr. Grace?” And I replied, “that is Goddess to you slave! If you don’t want me to file a sexual harassment suit against you or publicly flog you, and run to tell everybody in the building to humiliate you, you will become My slave. From now on, you will address Me as Goddess, understand slave?” Closing and locking the door, I, am now known to him as Goddess Grace, put on My boots, had him kneel at My feet and lick the soles of the boots. I then commanded him to lie on the floor and stood over him and lowered My boot onto his face. I then trampled him. I relished his humiliation! I truly am dominant and love to command males.



I looked at his crestfallen face and laughed aloud. “Why do you think you I accepted your appointment request, slave? Do you think it was because of your status in life? Ha! No, because our research showed that you were a slave at heart, and We knew that it would be only a matter of time to catch you in the act!” Goddess explained to him.



He was helpless and petrified that I would expose him. I then had him take off My boots, and massage My feet, lick and suck My toes. I was content because I knew despite his embarrassment and humiliation he was in ecstasy. I told him that from that day forward that he would be My foot and bootslave and worship and massage My feet each day. “slave, you better please Me or I will take out the hospital restraints and believe Me, you won’t be happy!”



We settled into a routine, My new slave would kneel and kiss My boots each day and that seemed to suffice. I enjoyed this interactive type of training….he was fulfilling his fantasy and I was fulfilling Mine. I informed him that he was to kneel and kiss every Lady’s boot that he saw while in the clinic. He gulped and responded, “yes, Goddess Grace!”



After worshipping one Doctor’s shoes, She turned to him, “Okay, slave get back to Dr. Grace, but understand something –Goddess Stanton is the inspiration behind this Clinic so don’t play Her. I am a sadistic Bitch so don’t give me cause to cause you great pain and anguish little man! You now belong to All of Us Ladies of this Institution and your suffering will be amusing for Us slaveboy! UNDERSTAND!!!”



I watched this with a smile knowing that My style of interactive counseling was going to be fun and be recognized as the standard for counseling in the future. Additionally, and to my absolute delight, I was going to have a stable of slaves to worship Me. Reading my new slave’s mind, I knew that he was thinking that he belonged to Me, Goddess Dr. Grace Stanton and My staff, I thought with a smile.

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It's a sign of the times!

CHICAGO - Though youth is fleeting, images sent on a cellphone or posted online may not be, especially if they're naughty.

Teenagers' habit of distributing nude self-portraits electronically - often called "sexting" if it's done by cellphone - has parents and school administrators worried. Some prosecutors have begun charging teens who send and receive such images with child pornography and other serious felonies. But is that the best way to handle it?

"Hopefully we'll get the message out to these kids," says Michael McAlexander, a prosecutor in Allen County, Ind., which includes Fort Wayne. A teenage boy there is facing felony obscenity charges for allegedly sending a photo of his private parts to several female classmates. Another boy was recently charged with child pornography in a similar case.

In some cases, the photos are sent to harass other teens or to get attention. Other times, they're viewed as a high-tech way to flirt. Either way, law enforcement officials want it to stop, even if it means threatening to add "sex offender" to a juvenile's confidential record.

"We don't want to throw these kids in jail," McAlexander says. "But we want them to think."

This month in Greensburg, Pa., three high school girls who sent seminude photos and four male students who received them were all hit with child pornography charges. And in Newark, Ohio, a 15-year-old high school girl faced similar charges for sending her own racy cellphone photos to classmates. She eventually agreed to a curfew, no cellphone and no unsupervised Internet usage over the next few months. If she complies, the charges will be dropped.

In Pennsylvania, all but one of the students accepted a lesser misdemeanour charge, partly to avoid a trial and further embarrassment, a public defender in the case said. The mother of one boy is considering fighting all charges.

Whatever the outcome, the mere fact that child pornography charges were filed at all is stirring debate among students and adults.

At Greensburg-Salem High School in Pennsylvania, junior Jamie Bennish says she's not sure the boys in her school's case should've been charged.

"They did not necessarily choose to receive the pictures, although I find it questionable that they did not delete the photos from their cellphones after some period of time," she says. "As for the girls, there is no excuse for exposing yourself in that way, and any charges they receive they have brought upon themselves."

Dante Bertani, chief public defender in Westmoreland County, Pa., where the students went to court, called the felony charges "horrendous." He says such treatment should be reserved for sex offenders, not teenagers who might've used poor judgment, but meant nothing malicious.

"It should be an issue between the school, the parents and the kids - and primarily the parents and the kids," Bertani says. "It's not something that should be going through the criminal system."

These cases do pose a dilemma, concedes Wes Weaver, the principal at Licking Valley High School, where the Ohio girl attends school.

He agrees that pornography charges or other felonies are not appropriate, noting that "the laws have not caught up to technology."

But he says there has to be some way to educate students and their parents about the harm these photos can do - and the fact that, once they're out there, they often get widely circulated. Days before his staff discovered the girl's nude photos, the county prosecutor had been at the school to warn students against sexting.

Valentine's Day is fast approaching

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Happy February.....

I was quite surprised to have so many calls during the Super Bowl Game on Sunday. Seems not everyone was watching the game! I did go on-line and check out the Super Bowl 2009 Commercials and some of them were very clever.

Glad the heightened testosterone levels got my phones ringing merrily away.

Seems the economy is improving a bit at a time... For the present I am running a special for a limited time; mention the recession buster and I will lower the price of the call to $1.50 per minute. You must mention this special each time in order to get the reduced price.

Hope to hear from you all soon.

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